Clingy Guys

The problem
I think it’s sometimes difficult for guys to know how much they should call/text/etc. I know that in my experience, I’ve been overwhelmed by the constant clinginess of boyfriends or prospective boyfriends. It wasn’t always just that they texted or called too much but I’ve also had experience of boyfriends that expect constant attention and expect you to be ‘on-call’ for them all the time in case they have a problem.
Not only that but, as a teenager, I’ve never been looking for a very serious relationship and so when my ex-boyfriend started planning our future together, I felt like I just had to get away. It’s not as if I always want to be the one to make all the effort but I need some space to breathe. Also, if a guy comes on really strong at the beginning I find it very off-putting and unattractive. You’ve got to give it time and enjoy the thrill of the chase.

The common advice
I could give you the usual advice: talk it over with the guy and give him another chance as he could just be nervous, etc. and maybe he just really likes you…BUT...

My advice
If, like me, you’re completely turned-off by clingy guys there’s really no point in trying to give them another chance because once something about someone has put you off them, it’s pretty difficult to start over, no matter how hard you try. If you don’t like his attitude to dating it’s unlikely you’ll be compatible in the long-run as you’ll probably want different things out of the relationship. If however, that aside from the clinginess he’s not a bad guy, you may as well give him another chance; after all, if he likes you that much, he’ll probably do a lot for you. Use his hormones to your advantage; you could end up with a Tiffany bracelet.

-SALLY